I think this is something everyone needs to be reminded of. I haven’t lived your life and you haven’t lived mine. Think before you speak. Think before you assume. You don’t know me and I don’t know you so all I can do is love first. I will not speak on a person if I do not know them and you shouldn’t either. I will not speak poorly of a person period. God created everyone, therefore I am called to love everyone. If you can’t say something directly to someone’s face don’t say it at all. If you can’t find nice words to say, don’t say anything at all.
“Fools take no delight in understanding, but only in displaying what they think.”- Proverbs 18:2
Words hurt and oftentimes the hurtful words come from those who never took the time to get to know you. Jesus calls us to love one another before anything else. You aren’t loving when you talk behinds someone’s back. You aren’t loving when you make assumptions about someone you don’t even know. Walk a mile in my shoes, live my life for one day and I know you will be biting your tongue the next time you think poorly of me or anyone for that matter.
In the past, like many people I have made the mistake on making assumptions on others and gossiping. Then I examined how I lived my life and how it was reflecting satan and not Jesus. If I want to get to heaven one day I am called to love and respect everyone. I realized that words really hurt especially when they aren’t true. I was hurt and I never want to cause pain to anyone because of what I have said. I never want to fail to love someone again because by failing to love my siblings in Christ I am failing to love the creator of heaven and earth.
But if you must know somethings about me so you can stop judging me on the things people love to judge me on here is some of my story…
Hi, I am Rachel Patrick I am 19 years old and for the most part I live an amazing life filled with so many blessings. I praise an amazing God that leaves me in awe of how he can turn our deepest pains and suffering into something beautiful. Yet some days it is hard to get out of bed in the morning. Some days it is hard to walk. And some days I just want to give up. You see my life looks perfect from the outside. But not a single human on this planet has a perfect life. No one! I struggle each and everyday with my chronic illnesses. Most recently with my Lupus. Lupus is a very hard disease to live with. It effects every part of my body. It has completely changed my life. It has given my Crohn’s, celiac, raynunds and fibromyalgia a run for their money. I have never experienced anything like this previously and I can’t even put into words how it has completely altered my life (not being dramatic there I just have lupus brain, aka can’t form/ process thoughts). My life might look perfect but it’s not.
I also notice many people are quick to judge those that are in relationships. Many people make assumptions that are far from the truth. Not that it’s anyone’s business because a relationship is between 3 people. The 2 people dating and God. I’m just going to say stop interfering in my relationship and anyone’s relationship for that matter. Stop getting jealous. Stop trying to break people up. Relationships are so hard. No relationship is perfect. Don’t give advice where it is not warranted. Don’t make hurtful comments from the outside looking in because you don’t know. You don’t know, you never will know and you never should know. Relationships are very personal thing and should stay that way. I was single for 18 and 1/2 years of my life. I devoted those years to becoming a better catholic and person. I spent years praying for the person that would bring me closer to Christ. I prayed that if it was Gods will that I would be single until that person came into my life. So I encourage everyone who is single or in a relationship to discern what it is God has in store for your life. I encourage you to work on yourself rather than interfere with those who already spent those years in prayer and was lucky enough by the grace of God to find the thing that filled the piece they never knew they were looking for. I promise Gods timing is the perfect timing. Don’t be jealous and spend all your time reflecting on what could have been but never was. Because God has something better for you.
I think my whole life I have had the knowledge on everything happens for a reason. I know it hurts now, I have been there. But hurting others in your hurt isn’t the solution. We are all hurt. It might not look like it from the outside looking in but we are all a little broken. Love one another, don’t assume but love them as God wills it. You are a beautiful child of God, and if you aren’t happy now, your time will come. I will be praying for you! I am rooting for you and your happiness. You got this!
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, on your own intelligence do not rely” -Proverbs 3:5